‘Women don’t look for handsome men. Women look for men who
have had beautiful women.’*
Maybe this is why she carefully asks him about his previous girlfriends. She needs to know how good they were and how beautiful they looked like. What do you think about them, how high do you regard them? It is pure self torture as all she wants to hear is how better she is. It is good to know that a man you are with has a good taste in women but you and only you want to be the most beautiful of all or the ‘most’ in something for him. You go to the extremes thinking that you would rather be the shortest or the loudest (or... think what you want) if not the most beautiful of them in order just to feel special; and how disappointing it is to hear that in a way you are not much different from all of them. You are just another woman.
Maybe this is why she carefully asks him about his previous girlfriends. She needs to know how good they were and how beautiful they looked like. What do you think about them, how high do you regard them? It is pure self torture as all she wants to hear is how better she is. It is good to know that a man you are with has a good taste in women but you and only you want to be the most beautiful of all or the ‘most’ in something for him. You go to the extremes thinking that you would rather be the shortest or the loudest (or... think what you want) if not the most beautiful of them in order just to feel special; and how disappointing it is to hear that in a way you are not much different from all of them. You are just another woman.
Being just another woman is the idea that scares her. We all
try to determine our unique self and establish ones immortality in another
humans mind. You do not want to die but even more you do not want to fade away
in someone else’s life, their memory.
Why does he not tell her how special she is just for once?
*Milan Kundera from ‘The
Book of Laughter and Forgetting’
